Monthly Archives: February 2012
Maturity once defined as “the ability to delay gratification” and in my current frame of mind, i sought out the meaning of gratification (like a good student that i am) and i found it out to be satisfaction for yourself, not leaving any stone unturned, I followed the word satisfy and found it to mean; to fulfil the needs or wishes of; make pleased on contented or fulfil a need or requirement. Don’t forget all this is to you.
Hmmm! I thought; if maturity means you delaying your satisfaction- needs, wishes and contentment, then i wondered why, to what end do I deny myself, who is gaining or losing. Then the voice of reason spoke to me, “maturity is making yourself last on the scale of preference” after everyone else’s need, wishes have been met (at least to the best of your ability) and they are contented before you now think to yourself. In fact these peoples happiness alone is gratification for you. It’s about you giving yourself to fully satisfy the needs of others. King David wished to drink of the water from the philistines’ porch. This guys went there, fought, killed and brought the water for him, ideally, he asked for it but he said, “Far be it that i drink this water less valuable than the blood of the people who fought to get it. He placed the value in the right place – In men and not in himself despite being the king. Devaluing himself and placing his value on his own men and pleasing them led his army to increase until it was compared to the army of the Lord. (1 Chronicles 12:22) If you observe, he placed the value on them, devaluing himself temporarily and eventually he gained the most by that gesture.
This inadvertently means selfishness is the number one sign of immaturity and childishness of the highest order. And he who is a child cannot reign as a king. Mind you, maturity is not a function of age. It’s a level of understanding that you are able to deny yourself, do things for people around you, even sacrifice valuable time and resources to the betterment of these people and you will find out that making these people makes you happy too. And that is herald of true leadership.
Until you mature something’s cannot committed into your hands. If all you can think about is to better yourself, you are only 1 out of over 6,000,000,000 people, that fraction is infinitesimal. If you were God would you bother to make resources available to that person? I would answer no because rational people think at the margin. Which means say for example I give you 100 dollars, you use it for yourself alone and i give another person 50 dollars and he uses it for the satisfaction of 5 people including himself, ideally, if 5 people can take ten dollars each then the 100 dollar guy gets 10 dollar from me and the 50 dollar guy gets 500 dollars with this mind-let’s see what he can do.
Time’s up folks, we have had enough time pleasing yourselves, if you don’t want to go extinct its time you think of others besides yourself, think of how to make people around you, far off (the world is kukuma a global village) better off, how to make their needs and how to help them get contentment from life.
Therefore, when your time here ends and as you leave, you can lay on your dead bed not thinking of the things you could have done but the smiles you put on people’s faces the indelible marks in peoples heart, your contribution into the world. Then you are ready to die in peace. When you soar to the heavens in the billowing clouds and on the wings of angels, with the blinding rays of the sun, shimmering off your sparkling white garment, you can look down and say you have truly lived and not just existed as a statutory being just consuming air, water and food without any replenishment. Get this! It’s never just about you, you have got to be observant of the needs of others and do your best to meet them…
There exists a conflict at all times. Between what is and what is to be. Time they say will tell, but time does thing at its own time. You can choose to wait for it. A lot of skulls are resting on old bones around the world – The Bones of people who have and are still waiting for ideality to catch up with their reality. Somewhere, somehow, someday, someone would ask you what are you waiting for? I can only imagine what you would say.
The beginnings of tomorrow they say is today. The force of the future is what you do today. This force is harnessed by your decisions. The bible tells that if you look at the winds, you’ll not sow anything. The conditions will never be right. If that’s what you are waiting for, Trust me I have been there. I was recently talking with someone about the importance of planning and how good it is to let a genius draft a plan for you. You’ll trip! Clean and crisp to a fault. But I have noticed that execution usually requires a push from an external source because they plan to the letter and execute as such. So most of the time, they get little done. But to the man who dares step out against the odds, goes the spoil. To the one who makes a move in the general direction of his dreams.
Know this, when they say it is risky not to take risks, its not just play of words or someone trying to whine you. Its true. Behind every great reward, lies an equally great risk. True, you may get burned but then playing it safe holds no reward. Prov. 14:14 says “without oxen a stable stays clean, but you need a strong ox for a large harvest” (NLT). Playing it safe is redundant; you think you’ll remain the same at least. Ping! You are wrong. The world is in constant motion, move or get left behind. What you must know is inspiration lies around you. If fear is your deal, I have a little something for you. Fear is a like a fire, you can let it burn uncontrolled and let it burn you but you can also harness it and let it burn the task ahead of you. Let the fear of failure chase you to success
Of course, perfection is what we all desire, but then it’s wise to know when and what to trade-off. Possibility of getting nothing and getting everything, the choice is yours. Get out of your comfort zone, get busy. Chase your dreams, they may appear elusive, but chase them anyway. You may think you’ll get one, and you may get them all. I plead with you, reality will never catch up with ideality, but we can land somewhere close to it